This is a two part question and your feedback is greatly encouraged???
Why is that when in a relationship, people’s logic seems to go out of the window?
How do two people experience/see/hear/witness the same events that cause an argument, but still come up with two completely different sequences of events the next day when they’re talking it out?
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everyone is different . he looks at that situation like this and she looks at it like that ….. u cant help it and there’s no need to question it agree to disagree we are humans and everything affects how we process situations ….
dont even get me started on this. It makes absolutely no sense to me. so i guess i have to go with Plastic007, and agree to disagree251
Men are from Mars,Women are from Venus…well, not literally but definitely technically…we have two different ways of processing information…men are more analytical, dismissing many of the key elements that play on emoitional and figurative perception. women on the other hand will (at times) place more weight on these emotional and figurative elements instead of the facts and figures…why do you think many women don’ have a clue about football and majority of men would rather watch paint dry than go to ballet or theatre LOL
if you haven’t already had the chance to read it, check out the book Emotional Intelligence by author Daniel Goleman
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Correction, Men are from Earth! And women are from some other planet. But that is not what makes people see things differently. The most obvious is most of us in relationships hate to ADMIT that we are wrong, period.
That’s easy one preacher said men think like waffles and women think like noodles. Waffles are large but comprised of many little blocks, mens thoughts represent those blocks where they can think of many things but at one given time they can only think about what is in the block at that time. Women think as noodles as we have no blocks or limitations in thought. We can think of many things and tie them into other things which make us see things very differently. Now as for those not in a relationship I go by the motto “believe none of what u hear (its usually hear say and often swayed with the individuals spin) and half of what u see”
lol @ James comment! I think the problem is a host of things (including but not limited to) assumptions, lack of understanding and /or communication, honing in on one thing and blocking everything else out, having an “I’m always right mentality, or blaming everyone else (cause it’s never my fault), holding grudges or not speaking on an issue when it happens, causing resentments to compile…With all that being said, I think that once two people sit down and talk and peel the layers back, at the end of the day it’s not about who’s right or who’s wrong, it’s about living and learning, and realizing that once you say it, it’s hard to take it back. More importantly, It takes too much energy to argue, life is too short, don’t try to fight every battle and sometimes silence really is golden cause it’s hard arguing by youself”….