YPs, relationships are complex things that have to be worked at. A good relationship doesn’t just happen, a lot of things need to be taken into consideration and accounted for. Communication is a very important factor in relationships. How well you and your partner will directly affect your happiness and longevity. Honesty, is another trait that helps keep relationships healthy. Honesty is important even when talking about negative things that occur. Showing your partner the right amount of affection and attention, also play an important role. There are a lot of factors that healthy relationships are built on, and my peoples(YPRuck) and I like to refer to these things as “Laying That Strong Foundation.”
Fellas, set that foundation. If you take no other advice that I have given, take this tip. Relationships are not unlike any other thing that you want to be great at. The work has to be put in. You have to be solid in your fundamentals in order to prosper. Relationships operate the same way. When you first meet a female, you begin laying the groundwork. This can go in a positive way or a negative way, you have complete control of what happens. Foundations can be laid poorly or cheaply, and when this happens, the relationship will see the effects. Likewise, you can lay each brick as well as you can and watch your relationship stand the test of time. Bad weather will come, but a foundation can be made to withstand anything.
It starts with the little things. Open the door for your lady. I cannot tell you how many males ignore this act of chivalry. This is one of the simplest ways to show you care, and why wouldn’t you want your lady to know it. Do it ALL THE TIME!!! This should become a (good) habit. When walking into a building or entering a car, THIS IS A MUST. Fellas, I cannot tell you how far this will take you. In addition, when walking with a female, it is an act of a gentleman to walk on the street side. A man should always want to protect his lady and this is a simple act that shows your concern. I have had to explain myself on an occasion or two, because it may seem strange to a woman who has never had the luxury of a man doing these little gestures. Fellas, we all know that women can do/say/act/etc. in the simplest manner that gets our attention in a good way. It works the same way with them. Set your foundation to where nothing is left out.
From the very beginning, show your woman that she is beautiful to you. Little things like holding her hand, kissing her forehead or rubbing her back will get to her in a way you wouldn’t even understand. Little kisses just because(not in a lusting way) show her that you are so interested in her, that you just have to show it. Women need to feel wanted and attractive at all times, so don’t be afraid to let her know that she is everything that you need. In return, I almost guarantee she will show you the same attention. Fellas, don’t even try to act like you don’t like when the woman you are really into, is all over you. It’s natural, we all like affection, so show it.
In addition, show your woman that you are about something, FROM THE DOOR. A man should be ambitious and want better for himself and those around him. In some form or fashion, your lady should be able to see that. You may be a hard worker at your job or be an aspiring entrepreneur, whatever the case may be, you should be serious and she should see it. There is nothing sexier than seeing your partner(male/female) with goals and actively seeking to reach them. If you show this passion early, then it will be easier to deal with when the time comes to put in extra hours chasing your dreams. Likewise, encourage your woman to be ambitious as well. Do not make her feel like what she wants is not important, BECAUSE IT IS. In fact, when there is a mutual respect and admiration for each other’s goals in a relationship, it seems that you both would be more likely to succeed. I am all about a win for the team. We can both be great.
All of these factors will help when the hard times come, BECAUSE THEY WILL COME. Relationships may face monetary hardships, they may face infidelity, they may face all kinds of problems. Having that strong foundation will carry a determined couple through anything. There may be some extreme circumstances that a relationship cannot handle, but if that foundation is strong enough, there will at least be a strong fight put up. Consistency in the way a foundation is laid and the way the rest of the house(relationship) is built, will prove to be crucial in knowing your partners character. Decisions will become easier because you know who you are dealing with and know what you are fighting for. Now I focused on talking to the men about foundation building, but it works both ways. Ladies you have to do your part in laying the foundation as well. He will love harder and forgive easier because of it. As YoungProfessionals we have to be well rounded, so go at your relationships as hard as you go at chasing your dreams. YPs Stand Up!!!
YPDSing, YoungProfessionals Writer
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I really enjoyed this one because I feel the same way… I believe all those things are true… Its almost like you gave guys a manual on how to act right and get a women to fall for them… LOL…
any relationship attention is key. you could think you’re doing everything right but always check-in, I agree. showing you’re passionate makes them feel wanted. who doesn’t want that?? if not- they’ll go somewhere else. trust.
Thank you so much for saying this. I could not have said it better myself. I think that I will print this and hand it to any new “potentials”.
Say that again! It takes work, I spoke about that here… http://www.boissuq.com/?p=463 I like the fact that you ask the fellas to take the lead in laying the foundation. And I discussed Chivalry being a dying art form as well, men are so focused on this she got her own mentality, that they feel they don’t have to put in any work to get “it”…whatever “it” may be.